𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐬𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐚𝐫𝐲 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐮𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐞𝐥𝐲 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐞𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐬𝐭 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐰𝐡𝐲 𝐝𝐨 𝐰𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐮𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐣𝐮𝐝𝐠𝐞, 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐦𝐞 𝐨𝐫 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬 𝐰𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠?
We are all at necessary parts of our journey and awareness. There is no one better or more “woke” than the other. The polarisation and the contrast is creating the exact friction or spark necessary for the integration of our truth.
We can no longer shame another, cast others out for being different, for being “unconscious”, for holding other beliefs and for not seeing what you see. For if we do it only serves to create more separation. We are all playing our part no matter where we sit in the “spectrum” of awareness. We are all doing the best that we can with the awareness we have.
We can create change in the world not through making others wrong but by embracing our differences. You can be in the sovereignty of your truth without condemning or shaming another. I get it in my own journey too I did this, I shamed others for their beliefs did not match mine. I cut people out of my life when I felt their “vibration” did not match mine. I surrounded myself in the “cotton wool” of a community whose beliefs validated mine, only to realise I was in resistance to my humanity.
So I began my descent back into the world, questioned my dogmas, my beliefs, and my actions. I looked at where I was holding judgment and who I was shaming or making wrong. What I found is that for someone who thought her heart was open she was very much still closed off. For the real work meant opening my heart to the very things that caused me pain, to open my heart to heal the resistances I had towards the “system” and the “injustices”.
It meant seeing where I was still even if subtly creating more injustice through my own bias, and seeing my triggers and my “cause” for action and activism as the source of where my healing needed to be. This opened my heart in so many ways than one. I released my need to be right, my need to be validated and my need to enforce my beliefs on others. I realised that everything in this life is dual and that too is related to the heart. Our heart has the ability to love all that is “right” in this world just as much as it can love all that is “not” right. It has the capacity to hold and love all of life’s contrasts in once place when we commit to opening it further.
On a recent visit to Maui I realised I was carrying so much old, deep personal, ancestral and even collective shame in the back of my heart - this is what I committed to healing and I am by no means saying it’s complete and that it is easy but I share this because the more I feel it and heal it the more I truly see the depth of conditioning, shame, judgment and separation that is still playing out.
Where we as a humanity still shame each other even when we think we are doing right. We all play our part. We all add to the beautiful tapestry of contrast that creates this world. This is not a spiritual ideology or concept of love and light- this is the willingness to be with it all and really face our shadows and feel it all and finding acceptance in your heart which allows you to be with the intensity of something without it triggering you or taking your power away.
“Shame separates, acceptance unites”
My mantra of late ~ what is yours?"
- Niamh Cronin 2019 (c)